When you are too nice to people…

Before I begin, I just want to say that this post is just to get all the frustration out of my chest. I’m feeling disappointed and sad. 

It seems that all my life I’ve been there for everybody else, including my family and friends, yet whenever I need some help and support no one’s there for me.

They all know me as being strong and standing up for others when they need it, but what they don’t see is that I could use some backup myself sometimes. I feel drained by everyone else’s problems and needs. I’ve had enough, and I’m getting sick of not getting what I want in my life. I know that sounds selfish but it’s how I feel. 

My wise old man always told me this (but it’s like I never listened, sorry dad) 😒 :

• No one can take advantage of you unless you allow it.
• It’s your responsibility.
• People treat you how you teach them to treat you.

Sure, sometimes you’re going to be asked to go above and beyond your duties, and you’ll have to comply because that’s just part of being a team player. But feeling unappreciated or like you’re constantly being taken advantage of it is not ok.

I know all too well how it feels to be taken advantage of in terms of being too nice to people and always running to the rescue and never complaining about it. It is all too familiar with me when being used. I discovered that I am way too nice to people and I am afraid to hound people because I am not that type of person to do so, so I let it go and I don’t bother. I have learned that if you are way too nice to people and if you keep saying yes all the time, it’s a recipe for people always taking advantage of you and they will keep doing it without realizing that it is wrong to keep going to somebody only when needed.

I cannot stand when people use other people and take advantage of someone’s good nature all the time. I mean yes I understand if it’s once, or two times, but when it becomes too much, then that is when it gets out of hand.

People should know their limits when it comes to real serious things in life. There is a time for everything and a time to get serious on issues like this one about life and among everything else.

I learned some hard lessons these days…

Life is an unfair journey. I want to change that in myself to be firm and to speak out when needed. It is very difficult for me to say no and it’s extremely difficult for me to change my attitude when it comes to certain people, but it doesn’t matter. I treat everyone the same and equally. This issue is something I am working on and it’s something that I am trying to focus on so that I am no longer a person who gets walked all over.

Pretty soon I am going to have footmarks all over me because of it. 😔 I am just so tired of being used and then tossed aside when not needed anymore. I need to speak up, and I need to focus on getting myself stronger.

I believe in changing and becoming the woman who needs to stop people by their tracks and stop users. Find people who will appreciate you and what you have done. It will be the best gift you give yourself.

Don’t let others dictate you and your life and don’t let others walk all over you.  Stand tall and don’t take CRAP from anyone. I am working on it. ✌🏻